A concise guide to dealing with other people, living your best life and connecting in disonnected times.
Leave as a Relationship Solution
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It is so hard to leave—until you leave. And then it is the easiest goddamned thing in the world. ―John Green
Sometimes you just need to invoke the baseball rule – three strikes and you are out. When you are ready you will know. There is strength in leaving. Get started and keep going. Leave with your dignity intact. With most relationship endings there is a mix of emotion. Feelings of anger, guilt, fear, depression, anxiety and relief. Going through the processofgriefis normal and necessary. You may be grieving the loss of illusion, which is often a greater loss than the loss of reality. It may be the death of a future full of hopes, dreams, security, comfort, companionship and belonging. Give yourself plenty of time to heal and recover. I recommend waiting a full four seasons before you make any more major life changes. Ultimately you will end up in a better situation.
I have plenty of friends I don’t like. –Julian Fellows (Lady Violet of Downton Abbey) At this point decide if this a one, two or three circle friendship. If less than three, what is workable, what you are willing to put up with? Social media without a face-to-face or real time connection?…
Definition of good neighbor: someone to be trusted; a courteous, friendly source of help when help is needed; someone you can count on; someone who cares. –Edward B. Rust Jr. Being a reliable, contributing or (at least non annoying) member of a community or neighborhood is another essential element of…
Visualizing concentric circles is a useful tool for defining or accepting the limits of relationships. You might think of it as your “inner” “middle” and “outer” circle of people in your life. Outer circles are casual acquaintances, middle for those with more interaction, and inner for those close to you. …
