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Visualize Circles to Assess a Romantic Relationship
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Our lives are long, and our circles are small…Right relationship is knowing that we are interconnected and finding a form of connection that allows us peace. — Valarie Kaur
Romantic relationships can range from “chaste courting”, “just dating”, “friends with benefits”, “booty calls”, being an “item”, “living with” to long term committed and/or married. How would you describe yours at this point? Then assess based on the six essentials: reciprocity, reliability, respect, passion, intimacy, and commitment. You might decide this is currently just a one or two circle relationship and it is just fine for now. If you want something more, I suggest looking for at least the first three essentials. Something serious should be at least a four, working toward a five, even a six-circle relationship. If less than three, decide what is workable, what you are willing to work for and check back in the future.
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