Visualize Circles to Assess a Relationship

Draw a circle around yourself, – invite people in or keep them out.
–Rachel Wolchin

Visualizing concentric circles is a useful tool for defining or accepting the limits of relationships. You might think of it as your “inner” “middle” and “outer” circle of people in your life. Outer circles are casual acquaintances, middle for those with more interaction, and inner for those close to you.  I view the outer ring as representing reciprocity, the middle ring reliability, and the inside as respect.  Whichever way works best for you.  The goal is for this way of thinking to become a habit. When all three of the essentials are present: reciprocity, reliability, and respect, I visualize a three-circle relationship with me inside – protected and insulated. You may choose to assign it an “inner circle” relationship. Thinking in relationship circles makes it easier to accept the limitations of others.