A concise guide to dealing with other people, living your best life and connecting in disonnected times.
Visualize Circles to Assess a Relationship
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Draw a circle around yourself, – invite people in or keep them out. –Rachel Wolchin
Visualizing concentric circles is a useful tool for defining or accepting the limits of relationships. You might think of it as your “inner” “middle” and “outer” circle of people in your life. Outer circles are casual acquaintances, middle for those with more interaction, and inner for those close to you. I view the outer ring as representing reciprocity, the middle ring reliability, and the inside as respect. Whichever way works best for you. The goal is for this way of thinking to become a habit. When all three of the essentials are present: reciprocity, reliability, and respect, I visualize a three-circle relationship with me inside – protected and insulated. You may choose to assign it an “inner circle” relationship. Thinking in relationship circles makes it easier to accept the limitations of others.
There’s nothing like a really loyal, dependable, good friend. Nothing. –Jennifer Aniston Reliability is the friend you can count on. It is the friend that has your back. They show up when they say they will and do what they said they would do. I once overheard a young woman tearfully…
The problem with doing nothing is you never know when you are finished. —Groucho Marx Deliberately choosing to do nothing is about reassessing. When you stop reaching out or responding to negative interactions, you are keeping your self-respect and your power. You can take a break from family. You learn to stop hoping for connection, predictability,…
If I made a commitment, I stood by that commitment – and try to make it real…the most important thing you have is your word,your trust. –Michelle Obama Reliability and predictability at work. How can anyone not be reliable and still have a job? It is baffling. Yet time and…
