We want one person to give us companionship, economic support, co-parenting, intellectual equal, best friend, confidant, passionate lover — and we also hope to find that person on an app. –Esther Perel
Romantic relationships are tricky because we humans are vulnerable and there is more risk of deep emotional hurt. Keeping our eyes open and honestly assessing may prevent some of the heartache later. For a romantic relationship to be viable, it should contain at least the three essentials – reciprocity of effort, reliability of commitment and respect for values, most of the time. If the relationship is to progress to another level and deepen, add passion, intimacy and commitment. Keeping up is like playing the old carnival game of “Whack a Mole”. As soon as you have one essential figured out, another one needing attention pops up. Before you get overwhelmed, remember, relationships are always a work in progress.