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Intimacy is not purely physical. It’s the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see into their soul. ―Reshall Varsos
t is a classic couple’s issue. One wants to just be heard, the other wants to fix the problem. Learn to say: “I don’t need you to fix this, I just need you to listen.” It is an ongoing dilemma – do I offer practical advice or emotional support? Learn to ask: “What can I do to help?” or “Do you want to be heard, helped or hugged?” It is especially difficult when we see a clear and obvious solution to a problem. This is comically demonstrated in a short You Tube video titled: “It’s Not About the Nail“. We need to trust that the other person will figure out what they need to do once their feelings have been validated. It is awkward at first, yet it is precisely this active listening skill that leads to emotional intimacy, flourishing conversations, and a much stronger couple bond.